How Are You Doing?
No, really how are you doing? Not in the sort of fashion like we are coworkers on an elevator. REALLY, how are you doing? I don't think any of us get asked this enough, and it leads to seriously loneliness. Feeling like we are being unheard, unwanted, unwelcome. The social outcast who never found their people.
We might try and fill that void with various forms of escapism, forming parasocial relationships with internet personalities, or even using generative AI to fill that void for connection, any connection. It never works. It's a temporary measure that doesn't solve the root issue. A lack of connection with others.
Sometimes we are in groups of people we call friends, and yet still are lonely. Like if you just disappeared into the background nobody would really notice. The perpetual 3rd person on the sidewalk that's 2 people wide.
Its okay, there are people who care. There may be people you know that you may not think care, but they do. They'd notice someone was missing, they'd notice a personality they love seeing is not there. There would be a void left in everyone. Everyone plays a role in a friend group, be it the protector, the joker, the open ear, the advice giver, etc. You play a significant role, allow yourself to find what your fit is.
If you don't have friends, it can be hard, but there are still ways to find and make some. Even if they are online friends, it's better than none. It might seem daunting, but there are events and small gatherings of people who are in a similar boat to you. Don't give up there's someone out there in need of a person like you in their lives.
Life is hard, I know. It's scary. I don't know what this world will look like in 5 years, let alone 50. We are but a blip in the great cosmic timeline, use this perspective to try and appreciate the small details of life. We won't be on this planet forever, so lets enjoy the ride while it lasts the best we can.
It's important though that you are heard. That there is someone out there who is taking a genuine interest in your well being. To give you some hope that you're not alone. So, I'm asking you this genuinely: How are you doing?
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